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Sunday, January 13, 2008 ; 6:25 PM
Forgiveness.
Mother Teresa:
Want to learn to love;
learn to forgive.
Col 3:13(NIV)
bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another.Forgive as the Lord forgave u.
Forgiveness
- is not based on someone never do it again.
- doesnt change the past,but enlarge the future,
- take initiative
- is given by grace
- is needed when there is deep hurt.
- should be treated important.
question T/F
Q1. A person should not be forgiven until ask.
T/F
Q2. When forgiven,it will minimized the pain.
T/F
Q3. Forgivness restore trust & relationship
T/F
Q4. Never forgive till forgiven
T/F
Q5. When u heard that someone is hurt, you need to forgive
T/F
the answer is : ALL OF THEM ARE FALSE !
1. Real forgiveness is unconditional.
2.Forgivness does not minimize the seriousness of the offense
- DO NOT CHEAPEN FORGIVENESS !
Pro 26:18(NIV)
Like a madman shooting firebrands or deadly arrows
Pro 26:19(NIV)
is a man who deceives hhis neighbour and says,"I was only joking!"
3.Forgiveness isn't resuming a relationship without change
-another person have to mend the relationship.
a. Repentance
b.Restitution(restore)
c.Rebuilding trust
- it takes time to rebuild trust
4.Forgiveness isn't forgetting what has happened
5.Forgiveness isn't my right when I wasn't the one hurt.
* We will never do something,if we never see the value in what we do
Why do we need to forgive other people when we are being hurt?
Value: knowing God has greater and higher value in our future.
Forgive: forget the past and embrace the future.
Life is 10% "what happened" and 90% how we react to it.
Everything is guided by the value.
Value
1. What's most important to you.
2.What you stand for.
3. And what you are willing to pay the price for.
Hebrews 12:16-17
More value in forgiving than in not forgiving.
We are given the opportunities to/for the right choices.
If we judge what we value by our circumstance,we will de-value what is important to give value to what is momentary.
Hebrews 12:14-15
First thing first !
1. get your life in order back with God.
2. spend times with love ones
3.spend time back in work and ministry.
A change begins,inside of us !.
How to forgive?
1. give up your right to get even
Romans 12:19
2. set boundaries
3. respond to evil with good.
Luke 6:27-28
-pray and bless that person.
4. repeating these steps as long as neccessary
-it isnt a one time event.
Matthew 18:21-22
Able to thank God that you remember!
Romans 8:28